Jan. 3rd, 2021

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I have a shmoopier post to get to before the day is done, but I've cracked open the old photo album again and you get to look!

I'd mentioned this trip before in recalling a reconnection with one of the few old friends I kept through both high school and college years. That was before I found the ancient album I've been occasionally going back to, which had a few unremarkable photos of a not-quite-week spent on a not much on the road trip to the West Coast, 41 years ago this week,  for the first and only time in my life.

What the motivation was, I don't remember. The more traditional Thing was to go to Florida for spring break, but I was never much for conforming, and this was over the Christmas holiday in the middle of our junior Cornell year.  We had no college friends in Southern California to visit there, and no relatives that I knew of then (and I just discovered that  the only possible resident rel, my maternal grandfather, would have been paws-up in San Diego by then), so I, and after the first night we, were entirely on our own.

I had just turned 20, Dave may have been 21, but at that time, that meant absolutely nothing! Voting and draft age were 18 (and I'd just missed having to register for Jimmy Carter's new possible Selective Service by about a month), and drinking was still 19 after going up just after I turned that age. Most importantly, neither of us was 25 or had a major credit card, which was the key to being able to rent a car in the most car-centric city in the world.

We made separate travel arrangements to get there. It was my first-ever flight, and one of perhaps three roundtrips in my life on a 747, redeye-ing into LAX. In those pre-internet days, I think I used AAA to reserve a hotel in downtown LA that had shuttle service from the airport- an older vintage place called the Roosevelt, which didn't look as upscale back then as in this more current view-



- but between its cost and downtown being away from most of the touristy glamour of LaLaLand, I had to meet Dave and get out of there to cheaper digs. I must've been in a hurry, because on my first morning as a California tourist, I acquired a ticket for jaywalking.  On a downtown thoroughfare called Hill Street.



Hey! Let's be careful out there! Especially since that show didn't even exist yet;)

Not only was this a major embarrassment and an unexpected cost at the time- I ran, within the sidewalk speed limit, to the Police Officer Station to settle my debt to society, burning one of my precious American Express Travelers Checks to pay the fine- it was an even bigger annoyance five years later when I had to track down the details of it for my bar admission, since it was, strictly speaking, not a motor vehicle conviction. I did learn from that, in the remaining days with much pedestrian activity, that drivers took the few people out on the streets very seriously, unlike New Yorkers who consider them only for the number of points they can accumulate for running them down.

We met up, I forget when and where- Dave may have been visiting family out there before this- but we spent the next several days as semi-stranded tourists. We settled on a cheap but livestock-free motel right on Hollywood Boulevard- it might have even been the Hollywood Hawaiian Hotel immortalized in the later Zevon song- which served as our base.  Being carless, we were dependent on tour packages, on the unremarkable but semi-reliable city bus system (Red Cars long having gone and the LA subway being far in the future), and on our feet.

Probably why I was a lot thinner then.



That's from the Pacific, taken on a very long-routed city bus trip out to the Santa Monica beach and pier.  This was my first sight of that ocean, and the only sights of it in my life were that week.  Venturing from our Boulevard HQ, we caught a re-showing of Star Trek The Motion Picture at the just-unnamed Grauman's Chinese, marveled at the utter dullness of the corner of Hollywood and Vine, and took in a fancy dinner in the revolving atop the glass-elevatored Hotel Bonaventure, filming site of dozens of blockbusters.

The rest of the vacay consisted of day trips, few immortalized on film. Hey, Kodak was EXPENSIVE back then!  To feed my English major geekdom, we took one to the Huntington Library out in the OC, home of a bunch of Shakespeare memorabilia.  Another day took us to Beautiful Downtown Burbank for the NBC studio tour; not a single star was in residence, but we did get to visit the empty Tonight Show set, then in the midst of Johnny's campaign of "WE WANT BERT!" to bring the legendary Miss America host back to the pageant. The most striking thing about it was how small the studio was.

One night, we went in search of The Funny-



(Sorry, yourself- we musta looked 21.)

No Dave or Jay or Robin that night- just an unremarkable guy whose schtick was using a megaphone. Want better service in a restaurant? ::holds up to mouth:: Some water would be nice!  Want to end your date better? :::holds up to mouth:: Some sex would be nice! 

We pigged out at the Farmers Market near the tar pits and went dinosaur hunting around them. But the biggest set of photo memories trip came at the Universal Studios tour.



We did. Still had to pay.

Compared to today's theme parks, it was pretty hokey and understated. Most of the "live" interactions came on just-for-tourist sets likely never used in anything, like this one which I had a connection to at the time:



Who knew my college paper had a California bureau?  The rest of the "lights, camera" action was from afar- Bruce the shark's pool from Jaws, the Bates Motel on the hill from Psycho, and on one driven-by set, something we had never seen and wouldn't for months:



Bob's Country Bunker, where they play both kinds of music- country and western! They told us this would be featured in the upcoming bigscreen production of The Blues Brothers, which Dan and John had already introduced to the world on SNL and on their Briefcase album.  When I saw the film that summer back in Ithaca, I remembered this moment as one of the fondest of that entire trip.

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No Disney. No game shows. Plenty of palm trees and a totally forgotten plane ride back to JFK and bus trip back home to the basement apartment with Jim and the missing Link.  I never had a reason or desire to go back for a visit, nor ever considered a career move that would take me there; California remains one of the few places to require all poachers to take their bar exam no matter how long they've been practicing elsewhere. 

It's less cool than it was then; even the Tonight Show has come home to New York.  And LA is no place for a....



Suburban Cowboy;)

Still, I have the fading memories and crummy pictures of....



Those Hollywood nights, in those Hollywood hills....

(It's Bob Seger. I'll try not to be depressed....)
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I promised you schmoopy, schmoopy is what you get.

This was my first-ever birthday blog post to a then just-turning-fourteen year old:

Boogies d'feet
 
Strictly speaking, the subtitle of the birthday candle box (one gets this living so close to Canada) is "bougies de fête." But that's the term that pops into my head every year when we break out the box to celebrate this occasion.

Eleanor's working tomorrow night (and I may be, as well, depending on what news and commitments tomorrow brings), so we elected to move up the celebration to tonight. Just as I took the kid to get things media the other day, Mom took her to the mawl tonight for her annual allotment of the things girlê-girl. She seems happy with all of the above.

In a way, beginning the celebration tonight is fitting, for it was a few hours ago, on this day in 1992, that Eleanor came out of the bathtub, feeling more piqued than usual after a full workday (even taking calls from coworkers while en bain), and announced that she was, quite probably, in labor.

An hour or so later, we were at the now-deceased Genesee Hospital. Seven or so hours after that, she was at 10 centimeters but with an 11 centimeter head trying to work its way out.

At 6:15 that morning, a life popped out. After they cleaned her up and passed her to Mom and then me, I held her hands, I admired her face, and for possibly the last time in her life, I got her to shut up merely by holding and rocking her.

The birthdays since then have celebrated growth, creativity, togetherness, and above all, a love that always endures, no matter how much we can annoy each other ::raspberries her::

Happy birthday, Emily (in 4 hours and 40 minutes, anyway) ::hugs::

Six years later, as she turned 20 and was home from RIT, we took her Oop North to see an art exhibit, meet some still-beloved then-LJ friends of ours, and legally drink for the first time- and this entry showed up late that night; highlights included-

♫I know we don't live here anymore, we saw a good friend on the Danforth....♫

Not the exact lyrics, certainly not matching the band in the icon, but we're just bursting with all things Canadiana right now, so deal.  We celebrated the 20th anniversary of Emily's birth by entering our peace-loving neighbouring land to the north (well, west in our case), three days into the bicentennial year of them declaring war on us and eventually burning our city down.

Hey, no hard feelings, eh? Your roads are clear, your people eclectic and your parking meters take American quarters.

Buffalo dawned frigid and with a bit of snow as we worked out when we'd depart and where we'd go. By the time we got on the road, the snow had progressed into squalls, but within minutes of touching Royal soil, the snow stopped and the sun came out.

It's been years since any of us had been over, more than a decade since the three of us last went together, but oh how I love how subtly and wondrously things change within 45 km of your front door. Just a few ticks down the 405, you pass The Beer Store; how can you go wrong in a neighbourhood like that? Not long past, we went by a Don Cherry's Sports Grill I'd not seen before. (No link; the corporate site is pretty annoying, just like Grapes is;) Eleanor speculated that they probably have a pretty strict dress code; "sorry, sir, but we can't let you in; your sports jacket isn't loud enoof."  Then, somewhere around Missasaugua, we passed a van belonging to the Two Small Men With Big Hearts moving company; I don't know what it is about this industry that inspires such cleverness in naming, but these two certainly moved me far more than the Seven Santini Brothers ever did.

Once off the highways, we headed through Chinatown to get to the Art Gallery of Ontario for the Chagall exhibition. First, though, a Brinks truck decided to try making an exhibition out of the right front end of my car, cutting across two lanes of Spadina in front of us to make a left onto King Street. (What were we gonna do, get into a shootout with the guys in the back?) We happily survived that, I dropped the grrls outside the entrance and scored cheap on-street parking within a block.

...I'd met

[personal profile] la_rainette  and family a number of years ago, but today, Em and Eleanor got to, too, and it was a delightful repast. Cathy caffeinated us, plied us with all makes of sugar, and shared the company of mere, as well as Froglet and Tadpole (both of whom have grown amazingly since I last saw them) and some very reluctant-to-come-out cats. We literally herded cats, as they prepared to take them all to the vet for some routine shots, and we bid adieu to one of the nicest folks we've ever been blessed to meet in this place.

 

Her final blessing was recommending a restaurant nearby for Emily's birthday dinner- a wood-oven Italian place, in what must have once been a dress or shoe shop on Danforth Avenue, called il Fornello. Marvelous pizza and pasta, a melted-brownie SOMETHING in lieu of cake for the birthday girl, and her first official legal-outside-the-lower-48 drink. We talked on the way back about how responsible she is about such things; both of us grups retired on New Years Eve long before she came home from a night downtown here, and neither of us ever had a worry that she would have done anything, or even gotten in a position to do anything, that would have kept us up all night.  We done good 20 years ago in an equally cold-dawning Rochester morning, and it echoed just as done-good today:)

First one with a photo I can find, the first I got to write to our proud college graduate (shown slightly younger in the picture;):

The Day That Changed Everything.

Eleanor and I moved in together on January 1, 1987. We were married later that year, bought the condo we were living in a few months after that, and had closed on and moved into our first single-family home in the winter of 1991.

All important things, but things in the lives of two people. It was this day, 23 years ago, when the two became three.



That, literally, is the first picture in the book (unless you count the ultrasounds).  It came after an evening of labor, a middle-of-the-night decision to C-section, and a healthy mother and baby in the world together for the first time by a bit past 6 that morning.

A few months later, she was in day care, and by the time we left Rochester in her third year, she was a happy, well-adjusted little girl who was already showing signs of more artistic talent than I will ever aspire to. She got that from her mom; I contributed much of the verbal agility and all of the bad teeth:P

For years, today meant we were the first stop on the annual party circuit. We did zoo parties and art parties and at least one obligatory Chuckie Cheese party that still brings sugar-high nightmares.

Today, though, turning 23, she's in her new home, with the love of her life, and with two kitties of their own at their feet. We talked earlier; boring day at home. She has at least one new celebration, though: yesterday, her boss gave her an unexpected raise, mainly because of how well she handled a rather stressful situation, entirely on her own, on the last day of 2014.  I'm not sure she would have had all the pieces in place to do that even as of a few years ago, but it makes us proud as all get-out to see it in her.

She- they- will always have a place in our home and our lives, but that little girl has grown up. The dreams she follows will be her own, and in her own way.  It's a joy just to watch.

Wow. Got 11 comments on that back in early 2015. Remember when we did that?

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Also, remember when we all blogged? And I did every day, or close? Fun times.

I can't find any more recent panegyrics to the child, but they are just as deserved as ever.  She and her beloved have been together since high school, under the same roof since RIT days, and, for the past three years, that roof has been hundreds of miles away in a state we've never visited her in. She found work, and artistic expression, and more furbabies to love.  I have shared one brief moment with her since then in person, and 2020 made any planning for such things impossible then and into the foreseeable now. But we still share everything from film to show binges to politics to laughs.

How far she's come as she begins her third decade with us in a time that needs her creativity and kindness more than ever.

Happy birthday, Emily. We love you.

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Unblogged, but definitely remembered, was the year after her birth when, as this year, January 3rd fell on a Sunday. I also remember what we did for that one: we were at home, at a birthday party for her.

There may have been a radio on in the background. No television, because the game was blacked out, but it made the papers, back then-



and again, in a piece recounting the history of that game's most famed play-by-play call, just last weekend:

It was pandemonium. It was FANdemonium. It was... fantastic.

But Em and Da Bills go back almost as far as you can go. The Comeback Game was a year after her birth,  Buffalo's first playoff stop that year on the road to their third of four consecutive Super Bowl appearances. The year before, they also made the NFL post-season and had a second-round home game the Sunday after Emily's Friday morning birth. (Eleanor had delivered by C-section, and she was still recovering.) A cadre of Bills fans filled the other recent mommy's side of the semi-private room at Genesee Hospital, playing the game on their side of the room and cheering them on to their victory over the Chiefs.

Both of those runs ended with losses to NFC East teams. Dallas, who they faced in the Super Bowl after the comeback game, just finished their 2020 season with a losing record. The Washington Now No Names, meanwhile, who defeated Buffalo in the title game right after Emily was born, will also finish this season under .500. Amazingly, both still have a mathematical chance of winning the crappiest division in the NFL. Meanwhile, the Bills blew out Miami today playing mostly backups, and in doing so secured the second-best playoff spot in their conference, and also marched their all-time best record of 13-3 from the year before Emily's birth. Miami also amazingly has a very good chance of still getting in despite the loss; sadly, there's only one scenario that will return them to Orchard Park and a stadium with a few actual fans next weekend.

She's a good luck charm for them when they play on their birthday, I guess:)

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I ran some errands during the game today, and came home to find Eleanor in tears from a kind gesture:



Mystery author Clea Simon goes back to high school days with me. We never quite lost touch, but renewed friendship through Face-ial connections, I met up with her and her husband on a New England visit a few years back, and she was one of numerous friends to console us on the loss of Boz last month.  But today brought this gift from her.  If this doesn't get the waterworks going for me, nothing is likely to.

The kitty on the cover looks more like Bronzini, who's still very much with us. He's becoming more of a constant presence, cuddling and snoozing in all manner of adorable poses.  Eleanor has noticed that he has stripes way down in his coat. We're still not sure if the two of them had the same daddy, but they will always share a bond with each other, and through that with each of us.

Boz's box will come home soon, and will go in the garden with all of our Rainbow Bridge travelers and the one of Emily and Cam's who sadly joined them there a few years ago. All of us humans will always be grateful to the moments they connected with us, and each other through them.

Meow. Thank you. Go Bills. Happy Birthday.


 

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